Save your heart.

I saw ‘The Breakfast Club’ movie a few weeks ago and came across one of the most grueling dialogues – “When we grow up, our hearts die.” And when you ponder over it, being a grown up, you kind of start agreeing with it. Because many of us have gone through something that totally wrecked their lives at one point. Where it felt like all walls around you have come crashing down. But, it also makes you think about how you survived it all and made it to where you are right now.

Being ripped off your innocence and dragged out in the world of reality, it does change you. But, do you want to keep sulking your entire life? How long are you gonna push away your friends and family, the ones who keep loving you in spite of your ignorant behavior? Yes, bad things happen and yes, it sucks. And yes, you might think it’s very easy for me to say this rather than you practically doing so. But when you think about the bigger picture, how can we let someone or something take away what’s ours.

This heart that beats inside you everyday, it’s yours. And you have the power to rule over it, nobody else. Period. NOBODY ELSE. So, in the time of adversity, it’s okay to take your time to grieve about things that meant the world to you. But, also remember that you still have your whole life ahead of you. Let the throbbing of your heart remind you how lucky you are to live another day. And for that precious little heart of yours, fight for it’s innocence. Don’t let you past experiences turn you into a cold-hearted robot who doesn’t laugh anymore. Just open your heart and see how there are people out there who would cover you with a blanket of warm embraces and discover the fire inside you that will light up the whole world before you turn cold.❣️

PS: This picture was taken outside Raw Love – Tulum, Mexico. You just cannot pass by this café without taking a picture!

Picture perfect.

I sometimes see people freaking out when things aren’t going according to their “plan”. And I used to be one such person too. I had this mental image of how my future would look like, monthly goals, yearly goals. And while we are busy working towards this mental image, life generally hits you with its own plans and may decide to take you down different roads. But, don’t just judge yet if these changes are good or bad for you. Sometimes, the roads less traveled might lead you to a destination that you were meant to arrive at. A place that’s meant for YOU.

And no, I don’t say that having a plan is a bad idea. But you need to stop obsessing when life doesn’t happen according to your plans. If one thing isn’t working out right now, there’s definitely something else that will or some other way. You need to accept these uncalled changes and face them with all you’ve got, maybe even try to find happiness along the way. Because you’ve already lost what you had imagined and now you’re also throwing away that could actually be something better for you. Sometimes we’re so fixated on what we want, instead of what we need, that we are not ready to accept the changes happening around us. If we learn to embrace these changes, we can surely learn how to adapt to different situations.

So the next time, paint that perfect-picture in your mind. But also don’t be afraid if you end up adding some random strokes and blurry outlines. Maybe, life does have bigger plans or you. Who knows, when you sway away from the original path, you might end up on the path that was really meant for you. Even if it’s a rugged road you were set on, life will bring you so many beautiful things to get through till you reach the final destination, that you would need a bigger canvas to paint the whole picture.

2020

This year has been nothing but a roller-coaster ride! Catching up with old friends and family only made me realize that we are all going through so many things, things you at times can’t fathom why they’re happening to you. How you started the year full throttle, but now you have to keep pulling the brakes until you make it through, while you see some people still going at full speed. And that’s okay. It is all okay.

One important thing I’ve observed is how important it is to let your dear ones know that it’s okay to fail. To tell them, “I want you to succeed at the thing you’re working hard on right now. But, it’s important for you to know that it’s okay even if it doesn’t. And I’ll be here to hold your hand no matter what.”

So, it’s okay if you’re single right now, but haven’t given up on finding love.

It’s okay if you’re away from your loved ones, but consider yourself lucky that you are able to talk to them everyday.

It’s okay if you don’t have a job right now, but are working towards it.

It’s okay if you don’t have the money for your start up idea, but you still carry the dream with you.

It’s okay if the dream wedding you planned couldn’t happen, but you’re still marrying the right person.

Because even if these things don’t work out the way you had planned, you’ve still got yourself. And realizing your own worth is so-so important in life! Knowing that WHATEVER curveball life throws at you, you are capable enough to get through it. Sometimes just getting through is also an achievement. And if you’re doing it today without any self doubts, you’re doing so much better in life, my friend! This too shall pass. 🙏🏻✨

Reflections.

Someone once told me that if someone is being nice to you, that’s probably because you’re a nice person too. And this thought has stayed with me since then. How often do we think about how our words and actions affect the other person? That these are the outlets that reflect a part of your own personality.

We’ve often heard about the word “karma” being used when someone gets payback for their wrongdoings. Karma doesn’t mean that only bad things will happen to you. It means your actions define what you get in return. Hence, if you’re sending out good vibes around, you will receive them in return. Basically, what goes around, comes around. I am a true believer in karma. And I believe that we need to start taking responsibility for our actions. No person in this world is perfect. But, if we start making a conscious effort in improving the lives around us, we ourselves are paving the path to living a fulfilling life.

We could all start by doing tiny bits of kindness like saying Hi to your neighbor, smiling at a stranger, checking up on a friend, sometimes going out of your way to help someone, providing food to someone who needs it, celebrating your friends/families small and big successes, etc. It doesn’t always have to be a huge gesture, just remember a small deed of kindness can make someone’s day. We are all fighting our own battles. So, it wouldn’t really hurt to try to make someone’s life a little better, in our own little way.

Right now, we need kindness a little more in this world than usual!

Spread love and light.🌟

Another love.

How often have you tried to compare your love? For people who have had more than one relationships, I’m sure we have all thought about how different our love life has been. Changing, evolving or even exacerbating.

I feel we are all gifted with this astounding ability to love. In today’s world, feelings are what separates the humans from robots. Even though technology has reached to a level where machines are being taught human emotions, it’s that throbbing heart of yours that makes you human. I’ve come to accept that it is indeed possible to fall in love more than once. How else will we ever grow or learn from our mistakes? Heartbreaks are terrible, they make you say and do things that you never thought you could. But once you’re over it and you begin to look at the bright side, you can actually ponder over what you learnt in your relationship. Try to keep the good abilities and focus on how you could improve on the bad ones. So that when you’re ready for the next one, you know you’re taking efforts to improve. Maybe things didn’t work out for a reason. But it’s so important to believe that someday they will. And that belief is all that takes to keep going on, while you work on yourself in this crazy world.

Also, you may notice that sometimes the love you have now doesn’t have the same intensity that you had in your previous relationship. But that doesn’t mean you don’t love your current partner enough. It means you have evolved to a point where this kind of love is what you need, what you want and what you think will last. This doesn’t mean you’re settling down for someone, it means you’re being wise enough to find a partner who understands you in the way you want to be understood. And for some the intensity is even more with their current partner. I feel it’s all about being compatible at different things with different people. And it just requires that one time where the right ones click. Just like Yin and Yang.

Knowing you can love different people in different ways, all you gotta do is put your love out there. Even one brave chance can lead you to the greatest love of your life. Just because your previous relationships didn’t work out, do you really want to waste that opportunity by not even giving it a try?

“When I open my heart and let it out for some fresh air, it comes back fluttering with another heart that really does care.”